In 2019, it seems the idea of etiquette is lost on many – unless you’re a member of the Royal Family and then proper etiquette is everything.
However, for us commoners, which fork to use for the salad isn’t really a big deal.
But that hasn’t stopped Debrett’s, a 250-year-old etiquette authority, from trying to get our attention.
The etiquette training company have just teamed up with Facebook to create a guide to digital messaging – and they’ve got some thoughts on what you should and shouldn’t be saying in the group chat.The guide, which was created using research conducted by Messenger from Facebook, advises people not to send one-word messages or a single emoji to their pals, as it looks “curt” and might make you appear “too busy or uninterested” to talk to the other person.
And you should also avoid sending multiple messages (four or five) all at once and send your thoughts over in just one message instead.
The guide states: “On a group chat, sending several messages at a time looks domineering and can be confusing for other members playing catch-up on the coversation.
“And if someone leaves their phone unattended for a few minutes, only to return to 27 new messages, it’s hard to resist checking what all the excitement is about.”
Other big mistakes you might be making include gossiping and ghosting.
Unsurprisingly, Debrett’s encourage people not to “broadcast other people’s private information on a group chat” as this might make the individual you’re talking about feel “exposed and embarrassed”.
They also don’t recommend ghosting anyone and in turn suggest ending a conversation with a “brief, polite explanation”, or if it’s someone you’ve been dating, they say you should gather up the courage and give them a call or talk to them in person.
s well as all this, the guide advises that messages should be replied to promptly where possible or if you cannot do so at that time, make sure read notifications are turned off so that the other person doesn’t know it has been seen.
And when it comes to chasing up a reply, you should wait at least a day unless the message is “urgent”.
“Bugging someone for a response after only a few hours is inconsiderate and puts the other person on the defense,” they add.